This is the lie that manipulators who lavish false apologies spread.īut no one deserves to be harmed, whether physically, emotionally, or with words. The hidden meaning behind any disingenuous “I’m sorry” is the same: I’m not really sorry because you deserve it. Don’t worry, over time you’ll become desensitized to this it will simply be “normal,” and so I’ll continue to push further so I can provoke you to react and keep myself entertained. “I’m sorry” is just something I say before I do this again-maybe the same exact way, or maybe slightly differently. I’m testing you to see what I can get away with-to see what you’ll put up with and what you won’t. I know what will hurt you and I do it with pleasure. A means of furthering the test of how far the apologizer can push the other person’s boundaries and get away with it RELATED: What I Wish I Had Known About Gaslighting Before It Happened To Me 5. This is really your fault in fact, you should be apologizing to me. Even though you might pretend that you didn’t mean to hurt me, I know that’s a lie. But you started it-like always, you did something to make me upset: you weren’t where you said you’d be, you smiled at that stranger in an overtly flirtatious way, you took too long to respond to my text. I wanted to hurt you and I did exactly what I knew would do so.
Sononym for going out of the way full#
A phrase designed to elicit an apology from the other party, whereby the original apologizer can deflect full responsibility to that other person usually said in a hostile or sarcastic tone and often followed by an explicit or implicit “…but this is really your fault”
RELATED: 5 Sneaky Behaviors That Are Actually Unhealthy 4. “I’m sorry” is simply a tool I pull out from my toolbox to prevent these things from happening. If I don’t say it, there’s a high likelihood of some outcome occurring that I don’t want to happen-maybe you’ll stop talking to me or leave me home alone while you go out with your friends or break up with me for good. I’m telling you what you want to hear not because I mean it, but because I know it will appease you and then allow me to pull your strings as I desire. A method of appeasement to control another person It may seem that I’m submitting to your point here, but in fact, I’m using this phrase to avoid doing so. I probably don’t believe it or don’t care enough to get to the real issue and so I’ll say this, so you’ll stop pressing for more. I’m tired and bored with this disagreement so I’m using these words to end it. A means to end a dispute that the apologizer would prefer to avoid, often for lack of caring RELATED: What Emotional Abuse Really Means 2. I’m saying that I’m sorry to make myself feel better, not you. I feel guilty because of what happened, and guilt isn’t a good feeling. Synonym: I don’t want to feel guilty anymore In such cases, these words mean something else entirely, including the following five possible meanings and their synonyms. But in unhealthy relationships, people often say, “I’m sorry” not to express genuine regret instead, they use it to manipulate their significant other.
To be truly sorry means feeling regret or sorrow over an unfortunate situation and your role in it. Saying it requires vulnerability to admit wrongdoing and the hurt that that wrongdoing has inflicted on the person you’re apologizing to. “I’m sorry” carries a lot of weight when it’s genuine.
Written by Writer’s Corps member Emily Desanctis
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